Still Single?
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Why Am I Still Single?
Let’s Define ‘Still Single’. There are 2 Types of ‘Still Single’ – those Singles who are actively dating and those who are Singles not by choice. This message is for those who are Singles not by choice.
Who doesn’t love to be loved? Who doesn’t want to hold hands, to be kissed at any moment or to be physically and emotionally intimate with their partner? Even if you’ve been to a shitty relationship (mind you, we’ve all gone through that and you’re not alone here), there are still some aspects that you still love and miss about it. So why are you still single?
“I’m Single By Choice…”
I’ve heard this a lot of times from Singles, and you’re probably using it as well. Single guys and girls who are not dating use this excuse so that their friends, family, and even the society, will not judge nor pressure them because of their current SINGLE status. Frankly, there’s no such thing as single by choice. There’s no truth as well to ‘I’m married to my work’ as an excuse to being single. The Truth is, you’re single because you’re either Choosy or no one likes you (ouch, that hurts a little!).
“There’s a lot of fishes in the ocean…”
Single guys, girls and lgbts use that same reason that their mate/partner is somewhere out there waiting for them. They have set for themselves qualifications what their ideal lover should be such as the physical and material aspects (good looking, sexy, has a job or car, etc.). What they fail to consider is themselves. Reality Check. Are they themselves the ‘ideal person’ of what they listed as their ‘ideal lover’?
Finding a mate is like finding a fish in the ocean, there’s a lot of them that you can choose from! Like the fishes, there’s a lot of singles out there that you can choose from depending on your choice or preference. Like in fishing, the fish doesn’t just come to you. For you to catch one, you need to have a bait. And depending on the type of fish you’d like to get, you also need to use the right kind of bait.
The singles are the fishermen, and their potential mates are the fishes in the ocean. You need to evaluate for yourself first as to how you can attract the right kind of fish. How can you get a whale if you’re just using a fishing rod? In the same manner, how would you get a good looking guy or girl if you don’t have a car? Kidding! Lol. But I’m sure you know what I mean. Be realistic. If you really want to be in a relationship, you may want to lower down your expectations a bit, so as your qualifications for your potential mate. It doesn’t mean though that you’re settling for anything less, it just means you’re realistic.(Plus, you will no longer be a part of the Society’s Singles List)
If you’re in an All You Can Eat Buffet, How will you know which food tastes great? Of course, the appearance and texture of the food can help in deciding which food you’d like to eat first but you’ll only know which food tastes great or the best once you already tasted it. That way, you can differentiate and judge for yourself which one is better than the other. The same goes for dating. How will we know if that guy or girl is meant for us if we don’t give them nor yourself a chance to get to know them? Never mind if they’re not that good looking as you wish them to be, remember, physical beauty withers! Dating is all about getting to know the other person, apart from the physical aspect. So go ahead and taste as much food as you want and after tasting them all, you can always just go back to which food tastes best!
If you’re physically gifted (yummy) with the genes, then you have the right to be choosy. If you’re not yummy, YOU DON’T HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE CHOOSY. You can wish, but if you don’t want to be single your entire life, then don’t be choosy. (Learn to compromise, not compensate lol)
Everyone is meant for someone. And regardless of the looks, there’s someone out there meant for you. You just have to find that someone yourself and not just wait for them to come to you. Don’t be lazy. If you want to enjoy the single life, then go out and get to know as many girls or guys as possible. Life is too short to be single.
If for some reason this doesn’t help you at all to get a date, join our Speed Dating Event this May 2016 and we will help you overcome your challenges on how to introduce yourself to strangers!
