How to Ace Your First Dates

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Guide to have a Successful First Dates!

So you finally have decided to meet this guy or girl you’ve been texting or chatting weeks, days or hours ago. You want to look your best because maybe, just maybe, they might be the person you are looking and hoping to be the ONE. Either you’re looking for your forever, cuddle-mate, FUBU or whatever, first impressions always matter. So check out these tips on how to ace your first dates!

 

PEE!

Yup, don’t forget to pee! Pee before leaving the house and pee 10 minutes before actually meeting him/her at the discussed meeting place, even if it’s just a squirt of pee. The feeling or the idea that you want to pee will make you uneasy for the entire duration of the date. You can always pee anytime during your date but leaving your date behind while you go to the rest room is like interrupting the momentum of the date. It’s like you’re back to square one when it comes to establishing rapport with your date after you pee. Or worse, you are giving them time to RUN away from you.

 

No Phones Please

You can bring your phone but don’t use it during the entire duration of your date. Using your phone during the date is tantamount to you not interested with your date. So as courtesy, don’t use your phone even if someone’s calling, texting or chatting with you. It’s plain rude and impolite. The only exception is if it’s a legit emergency call/message.

 

Talk Slowly

When people are uneasy or not confident, they tend to speak faster. Talking faster is definitely NOT SEXY and is always a turnoff.  Who wants to spend time with someone who’s not confident? It’s a major distraction and definitely a reason for an epic fail first date.

So if you’re not confident about yourself, remember the reason why you went out with him/her in the first place. If you’re looking for love or lust, then have the conscious effort to be confident. Confidence is always sexy. You can sound confident if you talk slowly and know how to carry a conversation.

 

Maintain Eye and Lips contact

When doing a public speech or during meetings, we are always taught to maintain eye contact. Why? Maintaining eye contact reflects that you’re interested with the other party. Too much eye contact, though, can cause discomfort to the other party especially if it’s too intense or if one has blood shut eyes (haha). So instead of just maintaining eye contact, try to alternately stare at their lips. Staring at the lips creates a sexual vibe from you and just shows that you’re confident (because you’re not afraid to show that you’re a sexual person).

 

Don’t be afraid to Kiss

Kissing on the first date doesn’t make one an ‘Easy-to-get’ or cheap person. Also, kissing someone doesn’t make that guy/girl your lover/husband/wife/gf/bf. It won’t make girls get pregnant as well! Society has taught and misled us into not kissing someone we’re not in a relationship with as this  makes one cheap and lowers their dignity, especially for the girls. This kind of attitude is definitely discriminatory against girls. Society exalts or places no discrimination on men who make out with someone outside of a relationship. Everyone just sees it as part of a guy’s human nature. Girls, on the other hand, receive all the criticisms from society when they do something sexual outside of a relationship. It’s a double standard set by society.  If that’s still your attitude about kissing, then you’re ignorant.

Why did you go out on a date in the first place? For love or lust or just getting to know? Either way, you went out on a date because you’re gambling with the fact that both of you might have a romantic chemistry or something.  How would you know if both of you have ‘it’ or the chemistry? You’ll know it by KISSING. If there are butterflies in your stomach,  tingling sensations, or if you feel like one of your legs would bend(like in the movies), that’s chemistry.  Why waste and invest time and effort going out on multiple dates with that person only to find out later that there’s no firework or chemistry between you two? Personally, I kiss first and then know more about them later if I can feel that we have a chemistry.

 

If you don’t like him/her….

If you don’t like them for whatever reason, just be polite and courteous. Go and continue the date (instead of flaking) but set the expectation that this is just a friendly date and you just want to be friends with them. Don’t show any physical signs that you are sexually into them. Maintain some space between you both and don’t talk about anything personal or sexual. Afterwards, end the date with a handshake.

 

NOTE: Dating is all about having fun and getting to know the person. If your aim for the date is either you’re looking for a relationship or just for fun, it should be clear from the start about the intention and reason for the date.