Break-up: Untold Guys’ Stories
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How Guys Deal with a Break-up
1 + 1 is always equals to 2 but not in binary language and certainly not in break-up stories.
Binary language is a numbering scheme where 0 and 1 are the only 2 possible values for each digit. In every break-up stories, at least in opposite sex, we most likely tend to ignore the guy’s side, giving it a zero value while the other is one. And that’s something insensitive because even guys have heart that bleed tears as well.
So, I asked some guys to share their heart-wrenching break up stories to prove that boys also do cry.
GUY #1: The Soccer Player
“This happened 4 years ago. That time, we got her as our drummer for our school foundation celebration because we needed one. I was instantly attracted to her since she’s beautiful, has a kind heart and very talented in drums. After the foundation, I invited her to go out with me as a form of thank you for what she did to our school. Right then, my heart skipped a bit since she’s conservative, soft-spoken and cowgirl. 3 months after, we were in relationship. Our family knew about us. I loved her so much but after months of sweetness, things changed. She used to support me in my every endeavour so I was to hers but she suddenly changed and wanted me to give my whole attention to her. And that’s how we started our quarrels. We weren’t able to celebrate our first anniversary because we had a huge fight. One question ended our relationship when she made me choose between her and my family. Although it would really hurt me since I love her so much, I chose my family. I was really broken that time but I did not regret my decision. Who would? What I learned in that situation is to never let her choose between her and my family.”
GUY #2: The School Icon
“Ours was a typical love story. She’s really the best for me but my only problem was I am very sensitive person. Our relationship was so intimate. We were so happy with the moments and secrets we’ve shared together but every happy relationship would always encounter a major plot twist. I found out she hadn’t moved on from her ex and it led to misunderstanding then to break-up. Yes, we could’ve done better. Yes, we had a choice but it was too painful for me to bear. So, I believe I made a one sided decision to let her be with her ex. After the break-up, I contemplated 24/7 thinking of what I should’ve done. I was so wrong. I learned that I shouldn’t have overthought too much. I realized I should’ve given her a second chance. But I made a very wrong decision. Sadly, she ended up in another guy’s arms. It was painful but I could tell she was happy with him. So, I didn’t bother to interrupt their relationship. My only regret was I was too blind to see that I was everything she ever wanted but that’s in the past now and besides mistakes make us wiser. So, I pray that I don’t make the same mistake next time.”
GUY #3: The Leader
“We were both in a team for a class activity that’s good for a year. She was our contact person and I was the team leader. What I thought of texting her just to check on my team turned into something more. Eventually, I tried to pursue her but she didn’t give signs until the activity ended. So, I lost the chance to see her always. Fate must be so playful that both of us got into the student council and then eventually became in a relationship. We were really happy but days past, it became cold just like a hot coffee when left for few minutes the temperature drops. During our first monthsary, I tried to get her attention and help her remember what that day was all about. She forgot our first monthsary and that hurt me as fuck! It worsened on the second month and that we decided to break up. It was really too painful. I neither ate nor talk to anyone. I wanted to go wild. It seemed she was just okay with it. Perhaps, she just thought it was only painful to her part and not to me. She thought I don’t cry because I’m a guy,that it’s just okay with me and that I am not capable of feeling what and how she is feeling. I stayed at home for 2 days sleepless and without eat. My mind was full of anger and I even cursed a lot. Then, I realized why I am doing this to myself when I can live my life to the fullest. I stopped thinking negatively. I started to talk and asked advices from my friends and family. It really helped. I just accepted the reality that we aren’t meant for each other and that to be cautious next time.”
GUY #4: The Future Diplomat
“She was the 1st girl I actually dated. I was serious with her as she was serious with me, I think. Anyway, I could say she was my “first love.” Because of that, I made her my “everything.” We officially dated for only 2 months and within those times, we broke up 5 times. I know some of you feminazis would say it was I who did it but it was really her. I never came back after the 5th break up because it was getting stupid, immature and nowhere. Jealousy was one of the many reasons. So, feminazis, please do stop generalizing that only men are the jerks in relationships because we, too, are martyrs. Each breakup was like the end of the world for me and I literally begged her to stay. I would blame myself for all the mistakes I’ve done (even hers too) to the point that she wanted a breakup. I would do about anything just for her to stay. I was really in love with her and I was desperate in each breakup. Call me blind or foolish or naïve but I was really in love with her. And I don’t want to live my life without her. I know it’s freaking cheesy but I know you would think the same thing anyway. I now learned that before dating the “person of your dreams,” you need to know more about him/her and ask yourself if you are willing to accept it and stay.”
GUY #5: Marine Biologist-under construction
“I used to see her around school and I thought she was really cute. I asked my friends about her and stalked her social media accounts until I had the courage to message her. Eventually, we dated about half a year. But you see, I still had feelings and communication with my ex whom I had a 3 year relationship with. I know I shouldn’t have dated this other girl but I thought I’ll get over my ex eventually. I adored this girl and had amazing moments with her. But I really felt something was missing inside me. Until one day, she read one of my messages to my ex and she got furious. I tried to make it up to her but I guess she’s not the I-will-give-you-second-chance-kind-of-girl. I was really miserable that time and I realized it’s not good to dwell in the past because it will just fuck up your present and future. And the something’s missing inside of me was just a senseless thinking. So, I stopped flirting with me ex and moved on for real.”
GUY #6: The Music Lover
“I met her in school and we became part of the group of friends. We hang out, ate and studied together. One day, I, she and another guy friend were studying in a cottage. We suddenly talked about crushes. The other guy and I had a crush on her. We described her as something beautiful, smart and has a good heart. When we asked who her crush is, she chuckled then she looked at me and said “Ikaw.” I didn’t expect it. From then on, we started dating and became in relationship. We had amazing moments together for few months but when I transferred to another college the next sem things got colder. We talked awkwardly and I sensed she was no longer interested in her text messages to me. Until one night, she told me that she already fell out of love. We talked in person and she explained that it’s not easy anymore. It’s really hard to describe how I felt about it. Moving on was really painful. I hang out with friends to chill my mind but it was really hard. That feeling when you go out with friends and see her as the love of your life but she sees you merely as a friend now hurt me a lot.”
GUY #7: The Bad Boy Looking Guy
“I knew her when she asked help for about tattoos. We had a communication then I eventually had a crush on her. Until I found out that she had a boyfriend. So, I lay low. But we always exchange messages since she told me she liked me. But still I kept my cool. Months past and she broke up with her boyfriend. Then, we started hanging out. It was just a great time since it felt like we were just barkada. Then, the me and her happened. After few months, we had an LDR relationship since I went back to our home town. Things changed when we remembered that she’s about to migrate to America for good. She told me that we have to break up as early as possible for our own good. Personally, I don’t like LDR but for her I can bear with it. But she refused since she’s not coming back. My world fell apart. I knew it from the start but as the day passed by, it really hurt me. I was depressed, became drunkard and did a lot of vices. Those didn’t help. I even thought of getting a visa to be with her but it isn’t that simple. Accepting the fact may be hard but I am left with no choice. My life is really fucked up. When you think that she’s the one but she isn’t. I even told myself not to engage in this thing, but I am a hard headed guy. And this is what I get.”
No matter how strong you think you are or can be, there will always come a time when being strong is the least you can do. The line “Boys don’t cry” is truly wrong because we really do and that what makes us human too.
