FUBU Dos and Dont’s

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A Quick Guide to Having an NSA Relationship

Dos and Dont’s With Your Fuck Buddy

Most, if not all, people are looking for a relationship because we want to share our love to that person. That includes kissing, cuddling, HHWW, and SEX. Who doesn’t love sex, fuck, sexual intercourse or whatever people call it nowadays? If you don’t love it, message us and let’s find out why you don’t like it. Ideally, having sex should be with a person you’re in a relationship with. But for those people who doesn’t need to be in a relationship or haven’t seen/met their special someone, it’s a choice if you want to enter into a No Strings Attached (NSA) relationship or find a Fuck Buddy (FUBU).

Being in a NSA relationship or having a FUBU is a great way for those people who are not in a relationship to satisfy their sexual needs and desires. As long as you’re doing safe sex and not letting feelings/emotions to get involved, then you can enjoy satisfying sex without having that guilty feeling before and after the deed. Here are some dos and dont’s on how to maintain a FUBU:

 

D0: Make Your Intentions Clear … Verbally

If you did the deed once or twice, it’s acceptable not to discuss your relationship status. But if it’s more than twice, ask yourself and tell the other person what’s your intention – is this purely just for sex or are you hoping this will lead to a ‘relationship’.  It might be awkward to be upfront with the other person but it’s really for your own good. The more you do the deed without knowing the ‘status’, the more likely you’ll develop feelings. It’s good if the other person will reciprocate your feelings, but what if it’s the other way around? Either way, being honest to yourself and telling the other person your intention is a top priority so you’ll know your limitations and what to expect.

 

Don’t: Be NEEDY

It may be one of your best sex ever or you just want to have a big ‘O’, being NEEDY is a BIG No-No. How can you tell you’re being ‘needy’? The most obvious sign is if you’re demanding that you two meet and do the deed asap via call, text, or in person. Remember that you’re not in a relationship and the other guy/girl doesn’t have the responsibility to respond to your call, text or meet you. Always keep your cool and if they can’t meet with you, just tell them the reason why you want to meet with them, you just want SEX. That’s it. Go straight to the point. If they can’t meet with you, then just offer your goodies to other people who’ll appreciate your offer!

 

Do: Make Small Talks Before and After the Deed

Making small talks before and after sex is an excellent way to break the ice. You can ask general questions like: ‘How’s work or How’s your day?’, ‘What’s your plan this weekend’? Remember that the reason you’re doing this is just to keep the vibe casual, light and cool. Whatever the response, just keep your response general as well. Just be emphatic and don’t let your emotions and feelings interfere.

 

Don’t: Talk about Personal/Private Details

Whether they’re a friend or just an acquaintance, don’t divulge or ask any personal and private details. The danger with knowing their personal and private details is that this may lead to develop feelings and attachment to that other person. You’re not their special someone so you both have no obligation to divulge such detail.

 

Do: Ask If You Can Stay for a Bit After Sex

The ‘Walk of Shame’ happens when you overextend your stay (especially if it’s their place) after sex. The best way to not feel the ‘shame’ is to ask them if they WANT (not CAN) you to go or stay a bit longer. If they say ‘Yes’, then stay at around 10-30 minutes longer. After that, tell them you have to go, If they want you to stay, they will definitely ask you to stay longer. If they wan’t you to go, they will say ‘Sure, that’s okay’.  Some queues that they wan’t you to leave are: ‘I have to work later’ or ‘I have a meeting later’.  Don’t wait for the other person to give you the verbal and non-verbal queues to leave. Otherwise, you’ll definitely do the ‘Walk of shame’.

 

Don’t: SLEEP After Sex

It’s just casual sex. If you’re fucking at their place, never overextend your stay and sleep. You can only sleep AFTER sex if it’s either your place or they asked you. Even if they asked you, it should be a NO-NO as this may lead to nurture feelings to that person. Unless it’s clear verbally that they want to elevate your relationship, then you can entertain the idea of ‘sleeping’ together.

This short guide aims to help you separate expectations and reality of having a FUBU. Have a Fuck Buddy if your just looking to satisfy your sexual desires. If you’re looking for more meaningful sex, then don’t look for a Fuck Buddy. No matter how good looking, rich or your ideal girl/guy the other person is, if they can’t commit to be in a relationship, then don’t push or hope that one day they will change. It may happen, it may also not happen that they won’t reciprocate your feelings. If you think you don’t need a FUBU, you’re correct. If you think you need one, you’re right. After all, it’s your life and choices.

Have fun and practice safe sex always!